Right now, the Boy and are having a discussion over how many of the embryos to transfer, and I fear that we are never going to agree.
Here's the situation: we really really don't want twins, and we really really don't want to have to "reduce" a multiple pregnancy. (Please please bear in mind that this is totally based on our personal situation, and has nothing whatsoever to do with anyone else's choices, current pregnancies, etc., but is just a discussion about what is right for us as a family.)
Now, as you may recall, we chose to transfer only 1 day 5 blast after our first IVF in Nov/ Dec. Obviously, it didn't take. We have two more on ice. The Boy is more anti-twin than I am , and is leaning very strongly towards transferring only 1 again. My perspective is different -- we have 2 on ice, and I'd like to use them both.
None of the 3 blasts (the one we used or the two frozen) are "excellent" quality; the way our lab rates them, they were all "good", but that wasn't too troubling, since our clinic only grades 10% of all blasts as "excellent".
And I know that, whether the embryos are going to work or not is essentially already determined, so whether we do the two at the same time or one after another, we have essentially the same likelihood of getting pregnant, but it just takes longer.
But I'm getting older by the day, and I think that (a) I'm getting older and while I responded well, my fertile years are not unlimited and (b) I could make a lot of really crap eggs, and we aren't going to get that diagnostic information very quickly if we only transfer one at a time, and (c) there is a physical and emotional toll that this takes on me/ us that I'd prefer to avoid repeating unnecessarily.
Any one have any ideas here? To be honest, we are sort of deadlocked, which is very rare for us.
(Note how evenhanded I am being in the presentation of this argument... turns out the Boy loves reading the blog, so it seems imprudent to call him a stubborn pain in the rear... :-) )