tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post1380019002839103186..comments2023-08-23T09:44:35.891-04:00Comments on So much for simple and easy: What does it mean to want?irrationalexuberancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05772420700972282324noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post-28428016260663120332011-11-10T13:05:05.853-05:002011-11-10T13:05:05.853-05:00I'm glad there's no emotional storm yet. A...I'm glad there's no emotional storm yet. And I'm not sure what to hope---that it never gets too intense, that your husband realizes a natural pregnancy isn't gonna happen...well, I guess I should be hoping that you get knocked up! So that's solved. My feelings on the subject of another child are complex, too...bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07197167351148883584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post-34600753988916125672011-11-08T20:00:14.705-05:002011-11-08T20:00:14.705-05:00I'm wondering if, you remain calm and relaxed ...I'm wondering if, you remain calm and relaxed about this topic, and if you don't gt pregnwnt in a few months or whatever the time frame is, if your dh will come around and decide he is on board? And you can maybe make him think it was his decision, bc as you said, you are totally laid back about it? *wink*. Crossing fingers thwt he comes around bc I want you to have what you want, and bc B would make a really cute old brother :o)siennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16982230898962770375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post-32282924026076386572011-11-08T00:28:21.452-05:002011-11-08T00:28:21.452-05:00It is so great to hear that you feel so calm about...It is so great to hear that you feel so calm about it. Maybe it is real, and it is a good way to start back into the want-to-get-pregnant thing. I think you sound in a really good place with it. Why not try naturally for a few months, maybe your dh will be right and that will work. And if not, maybe he'll have gotten more into the idea and be willing to get back into the ivf world. I admire how strong you are about this! I am so petrified of revisiting that scary IF world, also because I now totally see the attraction of wanting another. M is growing up so fast I kind of want to see it happen again!inBetweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212548401525577878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post-51754792800060358062011-11-07T17:17:36.496-05:002011-11-07T17:17:36.496-05:00My husband was fine with just having our first dau...My husband was fine with just having our first daughter while I desperately wanted another child. I adore my first born but felt like our family was not complete without our second. It made it very hard at times because the more I talked about/worked for #2 the more my dh got sick of it. Good luck.Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06248293979879390754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6132101063238572308.post-57439770834864640272011-11-07T15:14:10.249-05:002011-11-07T15:14:10.249-05:00I think that feelings about the second child are c...I think that feelings about the second child are complicated for everyone. Fertiles can just stop preventing pregnancy and "wait and see" without examining any of these feelings too closely. People can go off birth control before they even know WHAT they want, and often the whole thing is resolved for them (in the form of a new pregnancy) before they can even think too hard about it. Being infertile makes even this second-child-ambivalence more complicated! <br /><br />I hope you can talk your husband around to your point of view.Lesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01015353387009923240noreply@blogger.com